Don’t Drink the Poison

Don't drink the poison. Check!

“Not forgiving someone is like drinking the poison and waiting for them to die.” A friend of mine mentioned this to me the other day. I’ve heard it before and absolutely agree! However, it can be difficult to let go of grudges. People advise you to forgive, or just let it go, but you still struggle.

We want other people to change, other people to make things right. We want them to do what we want them to do. But we cannot change them. Moreover, we can only change ourselves. You can scream at the car in front of you to move over, but the driver won’t budge. Would you prefer to stay behind that driver and hold onto your anger? Or would you prefer to go around the car and continue on your path, stress free? Or perhaps you are fine behind that driver and decide that it’s not a race. In the end, you don’t need them to go faster.

This is About You

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How Fast Does Intuition Open Up?

Intuition is a unique and powerful ability that we all possess, but the speed at which it opens up can vary greatly from person to person. In this blog, I'll share my own journey of going from a complete skeptic to a professional medium, and provide insights on the key factors that can speed up or slow down the development of your intuitive abilities.

My Intuitive Awakening

When I was 32 years old, I had a profound experience that shook the foundations of my skeptical, logical worldview. My grandmother, who had recently passed away, appeared to me in my apartment - solid and undeniable. This unexpected encounter left me feeling frightened and unsure, but also curious to explore this new realm of intuition and the spiritual world.

Over the next few months, I began experimenting with different techniques, like using a pendulum and meditation, to try and connect with my intuition. It wasn't an easy or fast process, and I often felt impatient, wanting...

Facing the Fear of the Unknown

As intuitive beings, we often fear the unknown - what exactly will we see or experience when we open ourselves up to our intuition? This is a very common and understandable fear. We are comfortable with the familiar, the patterns, the known. The unknown can be downright scary, like jumping into a dark room or walking through a haunted house. We worry about what might pop out at us or what information we might uncover that we don't want to know.

I get it, I've been there. When I first started developing my intuition at the age of 32, I was a hardcore skeptic. The unknown terrified me. But I've learned that this fear can be overcome with a simple practice. The next time you sit down to tap into your intuition, I want you to first acknowledge the fear. Say to it, "I see you fear, I know you're there." Then, visualize placing that fear into an imaginary box or container off to the side. Tell the fear, "You can sit there for a little while, but I'm going...

Deciding to Be Human

There is a balance between deciding to be human and deciding to be spiritual. So much emphasis is put on following a spiritual path that sometimes a person can go overboard. I’m not talking about those over dramatic, hamming it up, spiritualists that put on a good show. I’m talking about going so deeply into the spiritual realms that we lose our connection to the human world.

Day after day of spiritual connection, ignoring your human side, can lead to detachment. While this is a goal of some, it comes at a price. I hear people speak of detachment and all the benefits of it, and I agree. However, there is a line that can be crossed where we lose the want and desire for human connection, emotion and adventure.

My Dog Was Dying

When my dog was dying I had a choice. I could tap into my intuition, check to see what was going to happen to her and then settle in to the comfort that if she dies it was meant to be. “Everything happens for a...

Intuition is Accessible to Everyone

Intuition is accessible to everyone. It isn’t something we gain. Intuition is accessible to everyone. It is within you right now buried beneath clutter and baggage and is sitting silently, waiting for the freedom it desires. The intuitive classes I took did nothing for me. Let me explain.

I opened up in my early thirties. Before that, I was a complete skeptic. Long story short, one experience rocked my world so strongly, there was no turning back. Today I work as a professional medium and spiritual teacher. When I first opened, I searched for intuitive classes to help me become more intuitive. The mentality of these classes was that intuition was like a muscle, the more you use it the the more you gain. This compiled with phrases such as “gaining intuition” and “wanting intuition” lead people to think it is something we acquire, something outside of ourselves. And this perspective is limiting.

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Making Choices

Following in someone’s footsteps is not a requirement, it’s a matter of making choices. To clarify, many of us unconsciously make the choice. We allow status quo, habits and cultural requirements to push us forward. For example, we listened to the teacher in grade school and we obeyed our parents when we were children. These patterns, many of which are necessary in our society, can turn into adult habits. Later in life we fall easily into staying at job we hate, letting a mean friend control us, or even continuing in a negative relationship we know is bad for us. Thus we follow in the footsteps of the people who came before us, letting our lives ride down the same road.

Take a Step Back

If possible, take a step back from these situations. Take an even bigger step back from the idea that you have no choice. The pattern in your mind, telling you that you are stuck and that this is just how it has to be, is a pattern that can be changed. For some people,...

Stress is Solvable in the Moment, Not in the Future

Above all please know that stress is solvable. At some point in your life you will feel overwhelmed, lost, and perhaps you will feel confused. When this happens, I tell people to start looking for solutions, to problem solve. And while this is helpful most of the time, occasionally it is best to not look for solutions. Sometimes it’s best to look for emptiness.

What Does it Mean to Be Overwhelmed?

Think of what being overwhelmed really is. It’s your mind focusing on all aspects of your life - past, present and future, all at the same time. Overwhelmed is a state of being, not a reality. It is a mental experience, but not a real experience. Thus, before you start overwhelming yourself with even more thoughts on how to fix the situation, perhaps it is best to step out of the situation. Breathe and notice that the world, and yourself, are perfect in this exact moment.

An amazing friend once introduced me to the idea that...

Intuitive Timing is Everything

When I say that timing is everything does it make you think of that moment when you notices a clock a 11:11? If so, you’re not alone. To some people, it’s a spiritual number and to others it’s just a coincidence. Chances are you will see 11:11 a few times a week and some will misinterpret it as a sign. The thing is, 11:11 is a time that people notice, so it’s not at all strange that people will remember it. You probably don’t notice 11:07 or 3:45. Well, they’re not repeating numbers, so they’re not as memorable. However, we do see those times and many others during the day that we may not remember.

A Spirit Trying to Get Your Attention

That is not the end of the story. There are times when spirit will try and get your attention, time is one of them. For five nights in a row I was woken up at 4:44 a.m, that was a sign! I checked in with my guides and was told what I was doing wrong that particular...

Gaining Intuitive Awareness Around Stress

The factors involved in gaining awareness while going through a difficult time are countless. However, I’d like to touch on a few of them today. Everyone has walked through a stressful situation, even dabbled in depression of some sort like sadness, gloom, pessimism. Part of the difficulty in getting above water, getting out of the sadness, is not being able to see clearly every aspect of the problem at hand. To clarify, when I say every aspect I mean the mental and spiritual balance as well as the very real and very human situation presenting itself.

It Can Be Simple

It can be something as simple as moving from one house to another. The human aspect is the physical move, the scheduling of it, and the process of making it happen. Likewise, the spiritual aspect of it is the shifting of your life path, the crushing of your routine, and the mental aspect of it is the attachment pieces or the discomfort in change.

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Intuition and Visual Cues

When reading for a client in person, it can be difficult to ignore the visual cues, body language, and facial expressions. I find that I’m often looking away from the client so that I’m not getting any interference with the information coming in. Before my client thinks I’m rude, I usually explain that in order to concentrate. It’s easier for me to look at the floor or some point beyond them, say a wall. I was raised to look someone in the eye and found it difficult, almost rude, to look somewhere else while I was speaking to them. Certainly I didn’t want to alienate the person sitting in front of me. I found relief when I was on the phone with someone and didn’t have to purposely avoid a gaze.  

My Struggle With Visual Cues

The problem for me was that sometimes the person sitting in front of me was presenting themselves differently. For example, I had a very lovely lady sitting in front of me with a large diamond...